When I reflect on my life, I feel like I’m watching a movie.
Where the actor is someone who looks exactly like me.
He’s a version of me.
A Performer.
He’s given a script that says:
"Here’s who you’re supposed to be"
Yet none of it feels quite right.
Other folks love the character.
He’s successful…funny…charming.
But it’s all a mask.
He’s a projection on a screen and it’s weird.
But here’s the thing…
I know every detail of what he’s going through.
What he thinks, feels, loves, and hates.
His deepest desires and darkest fears.
Then it hit me...
My whole life is about “supposed to”
I’ve been living as a people pleaser.
A puppet controlled in a story written by someone else.
He’s one of the outstanding performers…an important guy.
The list of achievements is supposed to make me happy.
To let people know I’m successful.
It’s all about two words…
"Supposed to"
And they seem to drive most people in the Script of Life.
You’re supposed to…
“Go to college"
"Get a responsible job"
"Settle down, buy a house, get married, and have kids,"
"Do what you’re told!"
This last one screws us up.
And it shapes our daily behavior.
We’re taught from a young age that other people’s opinions are truthful.
Listen to your teacher, coach, parents, siblings, preacher, police, and politicians.
To authority figures who are reciting what they learned…
“Don’t listen to yourself!”
A teacher says "You’re not good at math,"
A coach says "You can not play this sport,"
Your parents say "That’s not possible,"
And you believe them.
Because that’s what you’re supposed to do.
But what if you already have the answers?
What if you know what’s important to you?
Who and what are you meant to become?
What if you’re one insight away from becoming your True Self?
I believe it’s where you are right now.
One small realization away from where you want to be.
But you must break the patterns and install a new belief system.
You need to get out of your own way and stop living with "supposed to"
You are supposed to become who you truly are.
Stop listening to people who say you can’t do it.
Or the voice in your head that says you’re not enough…
And that you don’t deserve it.
Don’t pay any attention to doubt or discouragement.
Stop thinking about how you’re going to do it and focus on what you’re going to do.
Embrace your personal power.
You’re enough, and you can achieve your vision.
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